The Outcome of Francine’s Therapy:
During therapy, Francine worked through her feelings of loss and grief, resolved some of her anger at her husband, and began taking the steps required to rebuild her life.
She realized that there had always been problems in the relationship with her husband that were never resolved. She had tried to communicate with her husband about these problems in their early years, to no avail. She had decided that was just the way he was, and there was nothing she could do about it.
She now realized that obviously there were problems for him too that he did not want to talk about.
Francine saw that she had denied her needs in the relationship because she didn’t feel she could talk to her husband about them. Through therapy, she began to clarify what her needs were and started to feel stronger. Her self-confidence grew, and she started to get involved in her community and create new friendships.
She came to see that she needed someone much more emotionally available than her husband, Daniel. Although she didn’t feel ready to start dating, she had a much better picture in her mind of the kind of relationship she wanted, needed and deserved.
Francine felt that at this point in her life she needed to be there for her children as much as possible and that dating would be something that she would pursue in the future when she felt ready.