#315 – 20385 64th Ave, Langley V2Y 1N5 604-533-9163
#315 – 20385 64th Ave, Langley V2Y 1N5 604-533-9163
Do you feel like you’re not valued or appreciated in your relationship? Are you and your partner struggling to communicate productively? Do you find yourselves occupied with other things and spending less time together—even avoiding each other at times?
Maybe your conversations are riddled with misunderstanding. Perhaps you feel like you’re not on the same page in terms of sexual intimacy and it’s made you disconnected from each other. It could be challenges with other family members, relationship issues that seem irreconcilable, or maybe there’s been infidelity, and you’re not sure how you’ll ever rebuild trust. For the first time, you might be considering a couples therapist.
Reach out for your couples counselling, Langley, today.
Relationships don’t always struggle because of infidelity or frequent arguments. Often, deeper dynamics like emotional disconnection, mismatched attachment styles, or conflicting communication preferences are at play. One partner may want to confront issues immediately, while the other avoids them. Or maybe one is more withdrawn, while the other seeks constant reassurance. These patterns can leave both partners feeling misunderstood and disconnected.
Sometimes, the problem isn’t even conflict, it’s simply life. Between demanding jobs, raising children, dealing with ongoing illness, bad mental health, navigating business-related conflicts, or other traumatic event, couples can lose the spark that once brought them together. As responsibilities pile up, the relationship gradually shifts to the background.
But here’s the truth: even amidst the relationship struggles, there’s often still love, and a desire for something better. At Darcy Bailey & Associates Counselling in Langley, our mission is to help couples achieve a healthier relationship by learning to communicate effectively, reconnect emotionally, and grow stronger together. As registered clinical counsellors and experts in couples counselling, we provide a supportive space where both partners feel heard and valued. Our approach is solution-focused, evidence-based, and always tailored to your unique story.
If you’re ready to stop feeling like opponents and start working as a team, couples therapy can help. Reach out today to begin building a more connected, fulfilling partnership, with professional guidance rooted in care, respect, and proven techniques. Let us walk alongside you as you reclaim your connection and move forward in a stronger, more united way.
According to a report by CBC News, 4 out of every 10 Canadian marriages end in divorce. Put simply, committed relationships are hard to maintain. Peoples’ values usually change over time. This makes navigating long-term relationships tricky. Two people might see eye to eye in the beginning, but years down the road, their perspectives will usually differ.
Unfortunately, many couples get so caught up in the honeymoon phase of their relationship that they forget to anticipate these changes. They live as if they’ll always be the same people in the same phase of life. And when you factor in having children, caring for aging parents, or dealing with unforeseen life events, a couples’ dynamic can change even more drastically. This is why it’s important for couples to be proactive and get therapy early on in their relationships.
In the Instagram age, faithful and committed relationships are no cakewalk. Social media has made cheating easier than ever—one click of a button is all it takes to start an affair. Additionally, being connected to so many people makes relationships seem disposable. As soon as things get tough, it’s tempting to jump ship and try to find a replacement.
Counselling can help you and your significant other work through the tough times together. We want to help you break out of entrenched and long-standing patterns and deepen your commitment to each other. Oftentimes, when couples work through the tough stuff, they end up even stronger and more connected afterwards.
It’s easy for couples to get hung up on the superficial issues that show up every day—the “he said, she said” arguments that are easy to spot. It’s much harder to dig down and uncover the root of a relationship’s struggles. That’s why couples therapy is so vital. At Darcy Bailey & Associates Counselling, we want to help you figure out where your values differ, look at each partner’s patterns and contributions to your dynamic, and use that knowledge to change the way you interact with each other.
Most importantly, we want you and your spouse to fall back in love. By increasing your respect and appreciation for each other, the two of you can reignite the spark that drew you to each other in the first place.
Generally speaking, your couples therapist will meet with you and your partner together for each session. It’s possible to pursue individual therapy at the same time as couples counselling, and this is something you can discuss with your therapist. But since the goal of couples therapy is to help you work as a team, the majority of sessions will take place with both of you together.
Counselling can assist you in identifying the breakdowns in your marriage and the core issues that fuel them. We’ll look at how your attachment styles differ, how you’ve both learned to handle conflict in terms of your patterns and roles, and how past relationship traumas might affect the way you relate to each other. We’ll also help you work through defensive and protective behaviours so that you can communicate more peacefully and focus on understanding each other instead of pointing fingers.
One of the main approaches that we use in couples therapy is called The Gottman Method. At its core, the Gottman Method is all about assessing your relationship’s strengths and weaknesses. Doing so can help you work through areas of disconnection and build a stronger foundation of trust, empathy, and mutual understanding.
We also draw from Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). This approach is a process of stages for addressing de-escalation and facilitating deeper connection. EFT can help you and your spouse improve your emotional literacy, expand your emotional response patterns, and feel safer navigating tough conversations. For example, one goal is to use “I” statements—such as “When you don’t show affection, I feel unloved”—instead of resorting to “you” statements and trying to blame the other person.
In the end, we believe that both of you have the resources, wisdom, and resilience within you to make things better. Our role is to help you draw on your strengths so that you can discover a new-found love and regard for each other. We want you to increase your intimacy, improve your communication, and establish a greater depth of connection
Our couples counsellors are deeply committed to keeping things neutral. There is no bias or judgment here. Our therapists have heard it all—understanding people and their patterns and dynamics is our specialty. After all, both you and your significant other are responsible for the health of your relationship. Your therapist will help you identify how your own individual roles and patterns are adding to your relationship dynamic and figure out how you can best work together.
Every relationship has its dirty laundry. Very little will surprise an experienced marriage therapist. We strive to create an environment of total acceptance and non-judgment, ensuring that you and your spouse feel comfortable talking about all the problems in your relationship. We understand that it takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to seek therapy, and we are committed to helping you achieve a happier, healthier relationship.
Ignoring relationship conflict won’t make it go away. Couples counselling is a chance to practice different ways of communication so that you can manage and resolve conflict more easily. What’s more, our counsellors are trained to help couples work through their disagreements peacefully. We’ll give you both a safe space to say whatever is on your mind without fear of it creating more tension.
Providing virtual therapy across British Columbia and in-person therapy in Langley BC, serving Langley, Surrey, Cloverdale, South Surrey, Aldergrove, Abbotsford,Vancouver and Lower Mainland.
Respectfully acknowledging that we live, work and play on the traditional and territories of Coast Salish,Semiahmoo sq̓əc̓iy̓aɁɬ təməxʷ (Katzie), S’ólh Téméxw (Stó:lō), Á,LEṈENEȻ ȽTE (W̱SÁNEĆ), Kwantlen Stz’uminus, Nuxwsa’7aq (Nooksack) and Hul’qumi’num Treaty Group.
We invite you here to become familiar with the indigenous presence and the territories we occupy.
